Don’t know Daniel Tiger? Our Editor explains why he’s achieved near-sainthood in her house
A show of hands, mamas, if you’ve ever been through any of the following with your child:
- Potty training has been a struggle
- You can’t get them to leave the playground/iPad/scooter/toy because it’s time to leave/eat dinner/go take a bath
- They’re about to have a new baby sibling
- They refuse to wear appropriate clothes for a designated activity
- They become upset if they’re working on something and it breaks
- They have separation anxiety when you first bring them to school
All of the above is, of course, totally normal toddler/preschooler behavior. Two-year-olds and three-year-olds have a lot of emotions to deal with. But that doesn’t make things any easier when you’re rushing to get out the door in the morning, or you’ve had a long day at work and don’t have the patience to properly manage a tantrum. Let me introduce you to a 4-year-old cartoon tiger named Daniel Tiger, mamas. He will change your life.
For the uninitiated, Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood is an American television show from the same production team who worked on Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, a beloved American show that ran from 1968 to 2001 and featured a kindly man named – you guessed it – Mr. Rogers, who calmly helped children “learn about themselves, about others, and about the world around them” while delivering an incredibly special “one-to-one affirmation of their self-worth.” (Every episode ended with him looking right into the camera, singing about how he’d be back tomorrow to play some more, and concluding, “Because, it’s YOU I like!” Daniel Tiger concludes in exactly the same way.)
Generations of children in the U.S. grew up watching Mister Rogers (he often came on right after Sesame Street); he was like an additional grandfather who was there to listen and play with in a totally supportive and non-judgemental way.
Mister Rogers has been in the news a lot lately; for one, 2018 marked the 50th anniversary of when his landmark show debuted. Secondly, it was recently announced that Tom Hanks (naturally, one of America’s most beloved actors) was just nominated for an Oscar for playing him in A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood (which is FINALLY coming to Singapore in March). Not to mention given the recent, uh, political climate, there’s been much discussion about how we could all use a refresher in the lessons Mister Rogers taught us about kindness and respect.
Daniel Tiger, which began in 2012 and is geared toward 2-to-4-year-olds, carries on Mister Rogers’s legacy beautifully with its social-emotional curriculum. It’s one of the few shows that’s actually recommended by the American Pediatric Association (the people who generally warn against screen time), precisely because of the important lessons it teaches and the potential for parents to watch along and help reinforce those lessons (more on this in a sec).
The basic premise: Daniel is a 4-year-old tiger who lives with his parents in The Land of Make Believe (on the original Mister Rogers, a segment of the show was dedicated to this wonderful land, which he created using various puppets). Daniel’s father, along with a number of his friends’ parents, was a puppet on Mister Rogers. Daniel’s friends are a mix of animals (a cat, an owl) and kids (including one little girl, Chrissie, who uses crutches and leg braces, and helps teach Daniel about differences).
In consultation with psychologists and various early childhood experts, each Daniel Tiger episode is broken into two parts but deals with a central theme. The first episode of the series, for instance, is about dealing with disappointment. In the first part, Daniel drops his birthday cake and the frosting gets messed up. In the second, he and his friends are having a picnic when it starts to rain. Every episode features a catchy jingle tied to the theme; in this case, it’s When something seems bad, turn it around – and find something good!
I swear, the brilliant team behind Daniel Tiger has seriously thought of every issue – big or small – that crops up with preschoolers. My daughter is very strong-willed and opinionated about what she wears every day. On various occasions she has proposed wearing her bathing suit, her bathrobe, and a heavy wool sweater her grandmother knit her to school. Then she saw the Daniel Tiger episode “Tutu All the Time”, in which one of the characters insists on wearing her favorite tutu to class, and subsequently spills paint on it. Backed up by the catchy jingle Think about what you’re gonna do, then pick the clothes that are right for you!, the episode is all about choosing appopriate attire for the task at hand.
Now, when Maggie wants to wear her rain boots to ballet, or a long dress for playing on the playground, we need only sing the jingle to calmly remind her about what clothes are suitable for that circumstance, and she gets it. It’s amazing, I tell you!
By far our favorite series of Daniel Tiger episodes, however, are at the start of season 2. First, Daniel learns that his mother is pregnant. In the next episode Daniel meets the new baby (the adorable Baby Margaret), and in the third and fourth Daniel has to adjust to living at home with a baby (whether it means getting less attention from his parents, or suddenly having to share his toys).
We showed Maggie these episodes for months before her baby brother was born (Daniel Tiger is an amazing babysitter when you’re pregnant and exhausted!); they absolutely helped her prepare for what to expect, and got her excited for things like visiting her new baby brother in the hospital. In fact, the first time she held her new baby brother, she sang the same sweet song to him that Daniel Tiger sang to his baby sister.
Honestly, if you’re dealing with a certain issue with your child, I highly recommend finding the applicable Daniel Tiger episode. We did this with potty training. The Potty Song will haunt your dreams, but your toddler will also be asking to listen to it on repeat (“If you have to go potty, STOP! And go right away! Flush and wash and be on your way!”). PBS also makes a great companion app for potty training.
There are two Daniel Tiger albums available on Spotify; “Use Your Words” and “It’s Almost Time to Stop” are among our favorite songs to listen to. When Maggie’s playing on the playground, I need only sing “It’s almost time to stop, so choose one more thing to do!” and somehow, as if magically, she gets it and is ok with leaving after a few minutes.
Obviously Daniel Tiger doesn’t stop her from throwing tantrums, or struggling to share with her friends, or sometimes crying when I drop her off at school, but he does make things more relatable for Maggie and gives me a great point of reference. This of course means you at least sort of kind of need to pay attention when watching the episodes but trust me mama, it’s so worth it! Honestly, my only critique of the show is that Daniel’s parents never seem to get angry or upset. Frustrated, yes, but they are extremely even-keeled. So long as Maggie doesn’t turn it around to say, How come Daniel Tiger’s parents never get angry and yell?, I’m cool with it. To be honest, they actually model proper behavior for me, which I appreciate since it’s not like I have a clue what I’m doing most of the time!
While Daniel Tiger is no longer available stream on Netflix in Singapore, there are many episodes available on Amazon Prime, and all are available for purchase on iTunes. Give it a watch next time your toddler is struggling with his or her emotions. You can thank me later, mama.